There are so many great and important texts and debates about the concept of beauty and its standards in today’s society, but today I want to share something which was written by someone very special to me. I am so happy I got a chance to read this, because it is so different and unique. So personal, simple and pure.
WE ARE BEAUTIFUL FROM OUR NATURE AND THIS IS WHAT UNITES US
Have you ever stared at yourself in the mirror for hours pointing out every single flaw and every single insecurity you have? Have you ever walked down the street, seen someone crossing the sidewalk and compared yourself to them? Have you ever scrolled through your Instagram feed, analysed posts of those perfect models with thin bodies and flawless skins, and felt bad about your thicker tights or face with acne? Because I surely have. People in today’s society tend to compare themselves to others, they try to become more beautiful and prettier without realising that they are beautiful already. They are enough. We are beautiful from our nature and this is what unites us, this is our common language. We shouldn’t compare ourselves to each other, we shouldn’t compete whether we are more stylish than they are or whether we have more beautiful hair than they have, we shouldn’t spend hours and hours looking at ourselves in the mirror trying to fix something that is apparently ”wrong” with us. Beauty comes from our nature and it’s time to realise that we are beautiful just the way we were born.
EVERY SINGLE PERSON AROUND IS BEAUTIFUL IN THEIR OWN WAY
Since the day one we’ve been beautiful and we’ve been enough, but when we started growing up, society and even our family and friends started convincing us that we are actually not that perfect. When we are kids, we don’t care about how we look in the morning right after we wake up. We don’t care whether we are thin or not, so we stuff all the chocolate in our mouths and don’t see any problem with that. We don’t even care if we have dirt all over our faces after a long day of playing outside. Kids are not affected by the society’s stereotypes and comments. They are not affected by the society’s beauty standards we live in today. They are not aware of the fact that you have to be perfect in order to fit in. Kids just live in a day without worrying whether the wind will mess their hair or whether the rain will ruin their makeup, and it is one of the main reasons they are so happy in their daily lives. However, when they start realising the sick reality of being perfect, they start filling up their insecurities’ baskets. I believe that since the day one children should hear how amazing and how beautiful they actually are. Children should hear that their curly massive hair is beautiful, children should hear that their thicker than usual thighs are beautiful, children should hear that even though they don’t have perfectly straight teeth, they are still beautiful. Most importantly, children should be taught that every single person around is beautiful in their own way, every single person around is beautiful, because that is how nature created them.
SOCIETY’S CREATED BEAUTY IS FAKE
I strongly believe the importance of reaching out to the child’s mind since the very start of his ability to understand the world. Hearing that you are already enough from your early days can strongly form your perception of beauty and even your perception of life later on. But sadly it is not always the case. Sometimes no matter how much your parents or your loved ones tell you how beautiful you are just the way you are, you will find yourself doubting that. You will find yourself scrolling through social media apps or magazines, looking at those gorgeous, society’s beloved models and comparing yourself to them. You will find yourself doubting your natural beauty. You will find yourself trying to cover up your insecurities with makeup or clothes, because you will suddenly realise that your hair, your face, your skin tone or your body shape are not the type of ones society treasure. They are not the ones people love and adore. They are not the ones that fit into the beauty standards. Therefore, you start doubting your value, you start doubting your worth, because you don’t feel confident in your own self anymore. You don’t feel confident in your body nature took time to create just for you. Unique. That’s why the most important thing we all need to understand before we start doubting ourselves, is that society’s created beauty is fake.
YOU WILL NEVER EVER BE THAT PERSON ON THE COVER
How can you determine what is actually beautiful? If I have naturally light brows, but every girl I see in the commercials or magazines has thick dark brows, does it mean that mines are not beautiful and I should draw them? If my friend is naturally slim, but every single man he sees on the internet has muscular body, does it mean he is not attractive and should spend 5 hours a day hitting a gym? We don’t have to change ourselves just because we don’t fit into the beauty standards. Of course, if you love doing makeup and you love sitting in front of the mirror for hours experimenting and creating art on your face – do it. I you want to be fit because this way you feel much better in your daily life – then go to the gym. As long as you are doing it for yourself and not for the others, you should do it, but you should never change yourself trying to become one of those models you see on the magazine cover. Because you will never ever be that person on the cover. That person on the cover wakes up with messy hair and dark circles under their eyes, just like you do. In real life they probably spend their Friday nights with pizza watching movies with friends, just like you do. But you barely see that in commercials, social media and magazines, don’t you?
YOU HAVE MISSED SO MUCH BEAUTY TRYING TO BECOME BEAUTIFUL
So don’t listen to what they have to say about you and your body, because you are the one who gets to choose what to do with it. Leave your hair natural or change the color if YOU want to, let your beard grow out. Leave the makeup in the bag if YOU feel you don’t need it today. Stop worrying so much about your looks and start looking around you. You have missed so much beauty trying to become beautiful. You have lost your own worth trying to become worthy. Let the mask break open. See your own worth and understand that we didn’t spend 9 months in our mother’s womb just for no reason. Nature took all this time and energy to create us and even though we are all unique and different, we all share something in common. We all share beauty life gave us. So let’s start thanking nature back, let’s stop believing all the lies we hear and let’s start living our lives the way we want to.
♥ Lots of love!